Raising Boys into Men

Posted on March 24, 2015

I came across a helpful article today speaking to the dilemma and cycle of laziness specifically found in boys. The author states that "there are (at least) five vicious cycles that perpetuate male inactivity. Each highlights a different logic behind our tendency toward laziness and complacency"

1. The Inefficient Cycle: Incompetence → Effort → Failure → Frustration → Inactivity → Incompetence

2. The Overwhelmed Cycle: Disorganization → Effort → Insufficient Results → Panic → Inactivity → Growing Workload → Disorganization

3. The Addiction Cycle: Fatigue → Indulgence → Satisfaction → Negligence → Growing External Pressures → Craving → Fatigue

4. The Unmotivated Cycle: Lack of Motivation → Inactivity → Work Seems Harder → Work Seems Less Worth the Effort → Lack of Motivation

5. The Hobby Cycle: Hobby → Excuses Not to Work → More Time for Hobby → More Hobby → Less Interest in Work → More Hobby

The author concludes the article with a realistic hope: "And the grace of God begins slowly, gradually, and inch by inch. Stay in the fight. There is hope for a way out of your cycle — out of the weight that keeps you in bed, in front of the TV, out of your workplace and church. Your story is far from over."

I would highly recommend reading through this article with your son and working through these different cycles. Fighting against this struggle brings to mind Titus 2:11-14-- "For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works."

I'm thankful for the enabling grace of God!


Full article here: The Complicated Life of Lazy Boys

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Living Well in a Digital World

Posted on March 12, 2015

This title is borrowed from an article that I highly recommend. We live in a world heavily influenced and operated by technology. Our students at Fourth encounter temptations that exist in the Digital World every day. How prepared and instructed do you feel your children are to face these temptations?

The linked article highlights three attitudes we should have in light of this Digital World we live in. First, reject distraction and embrace focus. Tim Challies, the author of the article states, "How can we meditate or concentrate if we are always distracted?" Challies further alludes to this dilemma by suggesting that "over time we have trained ourselves to obey them, which makes me wonder: if we need to respond to our phones every time they beep, do we own them, or do they own us?

Second, reject isolation and embrace visibility. Essentially, the internet allows us, if we so desire, to act as if we were alone and free to behave any way we want to. Challies suggests that we "reveal far more of [our] true character in isolation than community."

Third, reject indulgence and embrace self control. In my mind, this rings home particularly with our students. Often students function in such extremes: Stay up all night, sleep all day. Parents must teach moderation and discipline, especially with technology. Challies explains how "[o]nce we relax self-control in one area of life, we allow the spirit of indulgence to creep in, and we are never far from letting go of control in other areas. So much of what our digital world brings us is good, but like so much else, it is good only in moderation."

Please see the article for further beneficial instruction. Really helpful stuff!

Praying for you!

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